Requests "Buy!"

Each parent will ever hear from her child to the request for the first time. It seems at this point that needs now is not the end. Begin to anticipate the worst: otklikneshsya to the first request, and will continue to meet the shopping needs of their offspring. Was that the case?
How to behave if the child is constantly asked: "Buy!"

Let's try to understand.

Most "Buy!" parents reacted rejection. Needless to say the child: "I do not want you to buy this thing and all!" Refusal without explanation will not solve the problem but only exacerbate the situation.

How to explain the refusal? It depends on the age of the child. For the baby can be quite a compelling argument: "This thing is too much. Let's buy something smaller" (A version of the output).

If this is child postarshe, but the thing you really need, explain your financial situation, the treaty when the purchase becomes possible. Is not difficult to explain that the adult does not buy everything he saw, or anything like that.

Naturally, the parents of the child filter requests (and the financial issue is not the first place). We need to - you do not need (if you have more than 10 firefighters machines, check whether the eleventh), quality goods - low-quality (for example, Chinese-made, then, can rapidly break down), whether the age, etc. A child can understand such an explanation.

It is important to understand what stands behind our first response to a request from "Buy." Perhaps we remember their childhood. Someone has too often heard failures ever feel deprived. The reaction: want to get a child it was. Perhaps it is belated appreciation of their own childhood dreams.

Some parents immediately respond to a request from the child's feelings of guilt. This is typical for very busy parents (especially for "business" Mom). And for the "Sunday" Dad, who is rarely seen with her son or daughter.

Western psychologists believe: a sense of themselves as "wealthy" lay still in early childhood. Grow, someone finds himself a rich man with temporary financial difficulties. And another (with the same income) - the poor, who could not afford. And the first is always a means to life, and the second ever struggled with poverty. So the main focus when discussing the purchase with another child to do better than to lack of money, but on the advisability of this purchase.

A child in a store.

Mothers know that a visit to the shop with a small child can be a test case for the nervous system of the adult. Kids get tired quickly, asked to buy something, another, third, capricious. How to protect yourself from similar troubles?

- The most radical means - do not walk into the store with the child. But it is possible, if there is a grandmother and other relatives or reliable when trying skooperirovatsya with other young moms and go to the store one by one

- You can make purchases for the week ahead. This option is for those who have a car.

And if the child did not leave with someone or the family has no car?

- Try before going to the store to draw up a list of necessary purchases. This would reduce the time spent in the store with the child. Besides, you do not have to go back, if you forgot to buy something necessary.

- Note: before visiting the store a child should not be hungry, or overexcitation or, conversely, are too tired. Otherwise, avoid the child dramatics would be difficult.

- Made in advance with your child what you intend to buy. If the store any misunderstandings - quietly remembered for what you came here. Try not to buy anything unplanned.

- You can capture a child's favorite toys or other distracting elements - depending on the age of the child.

- Children are interested in any bright object, and you fear that it may damage or break this thing? Try to say: "What a beautiful thing! Let's get to it and let's ask Santa Claus to bring us the New Year."

- Explore nearby shops. Avoid the ones where taken to stand for the counter or at the cashier bags of snacks, chewing gum, "Kinder-Surprise" and other tempting things. You do not need to once again provoke a child.

- If a child starts hysterics ( "I", "Buy!" Etc.), tell him that you are offended and upset his behavior, and you had better go along to the street and think about how to proceed. Unable to stop the hysteria - leave the store with your child.

- Children respecting certain rules and rituals. For example, you can agree: every time you buy just one thing or buy a certain amount. Or: go on a Sunday stroll in the cafe and buy a cake. Returning from a walk, buy a balloon (options - depending on the age and the child likes).

- You can avoid unpleasant emotions when you visit the store if your child take an active role of the buyer. In advance, draw or write (depending on the child's age) on heavy paper, a list of what you need to buy. You can not draw, and cut out pictures from magazines and glue advertising them on cardboard. I kid you aim - to find and show Mom you want a product or another product. Now, the vagaries of the store will be much smaller. After all, the child will be busy with important - it helps the mom. Zagotovte several labels (in the form of stars, for example). Put them in front of pictures as the child is what is required.